Five years ago, I had just returned from sixty days in residential treatment. I was sober, learning new skills, and committed to change. On the surface, it looked like healing. And in many ways, it was. But something essential was still missing, even though I didn\u2019t yet have language for it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I was still carrying unprocessed trauma, still relying on self-effort, still believing that awareness and discipline alone would be enough. My marriage was strained, and the relational patterns beneath the surface hadn\u2019t truly shifted. I had exchanged addiction for self-reliance, pride, and proving. I was working hard at recovery\u2014but I didn\u2019t yet know Jesus Christ.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When the world slowed during COVID, what remained unhealed became harder to outrun. Isolation exposed patterns I thought I had outgrown. I had tools, insight, and intention, but not surrender. I was seeking relief, meaning, and belonging\u2014often outside myself\u2014without realizing I was trying to fill a place only Christ was meant to inhabit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What I also didn\u2019t have was community. No male mentorship. No spiritually grounded friendships. No faith-based relationships that could model humility, confession, or dependence on God. I believed\u2014without realizing it\u2014that I needed to become acceptable before approaching Jesus. I didn\u2019t yet understand that He was interested in relationship, not performance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Learning the gospel changed everything. Not as an idea, but as an encounter. Scripture became a place of recognition rather than demand. The stories of David, Joseph, Moses, Paul\u2014men marked by failure, waiting, and redemption\u2014began to feel personal. There was comfort in discovering that Jesus came for the lost, not the polished. That He saves before we are ready. That He meets us while we are still becoming.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Looking back, I don\u2019t diminish the growth that came before Christ\u2014but I can now see its limits. Healing without surrender can only take us so far. What finally brought coherence was not more effort, but relationship. Not more striving, but grace.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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